Thinking about withdrawing from cards fellowship after matching

Hey everyone, I found out I matched at my #4 for cards fellowship in another state but my SO is having a hard time accepting it despite having discussing it beforehand. The situation is not ideal by any means and I wish I could go back in time and not rank the programs that I did. I feel terrible for this and I know I am affecting a lot of different people by my possible decision but if worst comes to worst and I cannot convince my SO I do need to prioritize her over my career.

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Thinking about withdrawing from cards fellowship after matching